Free Yourself from Self-Sabotage and Live with the Joy You DeserveMay 06, 2022
Each month, we select one of our Impact Tribe members to be our “Daring Member of the Month" and today, I’m excited to introduce you to Emotional Trauma Expert, Dr. Eva Malanowski.
Dr. Eva has been part of our community since the very beginning and we appreciate her for the calm compassion and deep wisdom she brings to our monthly meetings.
In her interview, Dr. Eva will be discussing how entrepreneurs can free themselves from self-sabotage and live with the joy they deserve. You'll learn how to:
- Discover the most vulnerable times of day when self-sabotage occurs.
- Connect with the “best friend” that can help you shine during your most difficult self-sabotaging moments.
- Decipher how your “self-sabotage” may be leading you to your True Joy.
Meet Dr. Eva Malanowski
Dr. Eva A. Malanowski is an emotional trauma expert. She helps spiritually motivated, growth-oriented entrepreneurs and professional men and women heal from the anxiety, pain, shame, and guilt that was caused by emotional trauma. Dr. Eva helps them get “un-stuck” from the childhood wounds and trauma they suffered. Many who experienced emotional trauma have coped with the pain through various addictions such as food, work, exercise, substance abuse and pornography. Dr. Eva helps her clients to break through these destructive patterns so that they can finally reach emotional maturity and fully utilize their hidden talents and gifts to lead a life of true abundance, fulfillment, joy, and peace.
Dr. Malanowski earned her masters and doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Baylor University. She completed her post-doctoral fellowship in Psychology from the University of Colorado Health Sciences. After outstanding work in a variety of clinical settings, she became Director of the Aspen, Colorado Counseling Center from 2009-2011. She has received federal awards for the innovative program she created at the Federal Bureau of Prisons in Englewood, Colorado for inmates with sexual compulsions, technology addictions and substance abuse issues.
While in Aspen Dr. Eva met Dr. Martha Horton, the founder of Amate Growth Work, and became the first trained Amáte Growth Work Facilitator at the Amáte Institute Aspen. She has now established The Amáte Institute Boulder to offer this vital healing method to those in the Boulder area as well as clients from around the world.
Dr. Eva is also the author of the book, “Ancestral Trauma and the Deep Roots of Money Blocks,” and the co-creator of the Ancestral Trauma Release Techniques™ (ATRT) method.
Q: How did you get started in your business and down this path?
Dr. Eva has a multi-faceted story, as many of us do. While she was studying to be a traditional psychologist, she always felt that something was missing – which was a sense of meaning and purpose behind trying to heal and becoming who you were meant to become. She shares that she didn’t feel confident talking about spiritual issues and the deeper meaning of life until she did her own personal growth work through a program that ended up inspiring her offer.
Once she healed her inner little girl who was stuck at the age of six years old, she was finally able to talk openly about her work and about healing our inner selves and address the spiritual meaning and impact on our healing.
Q: Who do you specialize in supporting, and what’s the most common problem or challenge you help them overcome?
Dr. Eva is passionate about helping spiritually-oriented entrepreneurs and professionals who are ready to heal from childhood and emotional traumas that are keeping them stuck. Once they realize the traumas are what’s keeping them stuck, and once those traumas are healed, they’re truly able to live a joyful and passionate life where they can find meaning, follow their inner guidance, connect with their higher self, and do what they came to this planet to do.
The most common challenge she sees in her clients is fear in the form of anxiety, leading to self-sabotage, such as procrastination.
Being an entrepreneur can actually bring out so many issues that are connected to our inner healing and spiritual journeys. When you have a “regular” job, you’re much more set in a routine that is able to shield you from the truth. When you’re an entrepreneur, your business is a direct reflection of your energy – in terms of the success of your clients, and as your work.
Our businesses serve as a barometer of where we are energetically, and are one of our greatest spiritual teachers.
Not only does she help people who struggle with more invasive, large-scale addictions, but something important to remember is that addiction can manifest itself in many ways – even something as “small” as social media. Eva works on not only helping you achieve sobriety, but her specialty is in maintaining your healing and sobriety.
Q: What are some other ways self-sabotage can present itself?
Aside from procrastination, self-sabotage can also show up in the form of addictions that allow us to deal with our anxiety – whether that manifests as substance abuse, over-organizing, or spending too much time on social media. Self sabotage is anything that “helps” you avoid the things you need to do in your business, and anything that keeps you stuck in thought and behavior patterns that aren’t serving you.
She mentioned that there are countless things that could be classified as addictions – many of which are actually related to electronics and our online lives.
Q: What are some takeaways you can share to help people stop self-sabotaging?
There are times in your day when you’re much more vulnerable to self-sabotage – these are referred to as transition times. An example would be that time between when we wake up in the morning and when we start working, or when we are done working and transition back to being with our family.
Dr. Eva refers to these as the weak links in the fabric of our lives – we’re moving from one place to another, and have to completely shift our mindset. This mental transition and change of environments can quickly lead to self sabotage.
The first key piece is awareness. Be aware of your transition time triggers, and have strategies you can do to help yourself through those periods without giving into self-sabotage or addictions.
One of her favorite tactics to practice is self talk. Self talk is that little voice in your head that’s always there. It’s important to think about what you’re trying to accomplish – where are you now, and where is it you want to be? For example, if your goal is to be more confident, then you’ll practice self-talk as though you are already a confident person. Rather than telling yourself to get ready to drudge through another day, talk to yourself as though you already are the confident person you want to become, like by telling yourself that you’re going to have a great day.
The last point she shares is then at the end of your day, review how things went, without judging yourself. What worked? What didn’t work? When you see a pattern that occurs constantly, such as getting stuck on social media for hours, or going out with friends while ignoring your goals, you need to take a look at what’s going on. Here, your self-sabotage can help you pinpoint what you may truly be going through in your life.
By talking to different parts of yourself, such as the part of you that decides to stay on social media or book another night out with friends, you can bring your subconscious thoughts into the forefront of the conscious mind and become more aware of what you’re subconsciously trying to sabotage, or what your fears are. Rather than ignoring these parts of yourself, sitting down and directly addressing them can allow you to uncover what you truly desire, and bring that into reality for yourself.
Q: What does “daring” mean to you?
Daring, for Dr. Eva, means being able to be your true, authentic self, even if that’s not something that’s conventionally done in your profession. For her, this looks like bringing spirituality to psychology, which is not a common stance to take.
Q: What are you most excited about in your business right now?
Dr. Eva is most excited about her book, “Ancestral Trauma and the Deep Roots of Money Blocks.”
She is also creating a new program that takes part in three sessions to address ancestral traumas so you can heal yourself, as well as your family lineage, using the Ancestral Trauma Release Techniques™ (ATRT) she co-created. Many of us carry ancestral traumas, and may not even realize it. By addressing and healing these traumas, Dr. Eva can help open up a new potential reality in your life.
You can learn more about Dr. Eva’s work and business, and get in touch with her at this link. If you’re interested in learning more about her new program, or are interested in setting up a complimentary consultation with her, you can do that here.
If you want to join Eva and other amazing members in the Impact Tribe, we would love to have you! When you join the Impact Tribe, you get access to a library of biz-booming courses, next-level coaching, and an inspiring, uplifting community of women on a similar path as you. Learn more and join us today at this link.